“Then, she began to breathe, and live, and every moment took her to a place where goodbyes were hard to come by. She was in love, but not in love with someone or something, she was in love with her life. and for the first time, in a long time, everything was inspiring.” – R.M. Drake
I know I have posted many literary pieces lately, but I can’t help myself. I find the words resonate so well. So simply yet so strongly.
A few friends of mine are going through times of change. Yes, mostly career-based. And it’s tough; tough to watch them struggle with changes of heart. The contractions the heart makes when it’s wrenched out. However, these individuals are stronger than they know.
As I am now approaching my mid-twenties, I have found the desire to be more selfish with myself. This is it, my little kittens. This is the time you have for you. For you to find the you, and become the you, that you’ve always envisaged. This is the time to fully develop the life that’s just started to take roots.
There is no need to play the blame game or guilt trip here. There is no one to blame when hearts are meant to deal with these changes, insecurities, shifts and growths.
In the end, happiness can’t be bought. It can’t be measured by the goals we set marked with time-sensitive stamps. As cliche, as poor cliche, as it sounds – life is meant to be lived. Lived by you and the relationship you build with yourself. Others can come secondary. And will come secondary because the stronger you are on your own, the more attractive you become.
Life is meant to be lived through the difficult times and to be embraced during the golden times. The lows will take you higher; look up. Remember: “the harder you slam the ball into the ground, the higher it bounces back up.” Trust me. And when you finally realize that there is just so much opportunities and good things out there, you’ll unintentionally become inspired. It’s a beautiful thing.
Love comes in many ways, in a myriad of forms; the moment you breathe in the essence that comes along with letting go of preset novelties you have set in front of yourself, the swifter clarity will come.
You know what the golden secret is? Let it evolve the way it’s planned, loosen your firm grip and give way to the bigger picture. The sooner you do, the sooner you’ll find – how naive you really are to even think that things won’t get better for you.
Times? Times will always get better, ALWAYS. And so will you and your life. So unbind and know that you’re not alone in feeling confused or lost. Everyone feels this way sometimes. And before you know it, you’ll exhale a sense armed with an inner-power that will cross a serendipitous route, which will seemingly walk you through to something unexpectedly otherworldly.
Above all, value and appreciate the relationship you have with yourself. It’s ever evolving and to sum it all up quite simply: that’s the greatest thing about this beautiful life. You do you. xx